Sunday, March 13, 2016

Marriage and Family are source to feel Complete ?

Hello dear friends  hope and pray that your heart are having same blooms as your gardens  now  a days .

Few  months ago  in my in laws it was a death anniversary of one of my Hubby's  uncle.He  died  almost  seven years ago. He was the  eldest brother of my father in law and had strongest  financial  condition among his all four brothers.


      youth ,beauty  and power is not forever,sow some seed to turn into a tree ,may be one day you will sit under its  shad.


His name was  Amir but everybody called him Amboo uncle.After my marriage when i moved here i also called him baba amboo..My hubby told me that he was  extremely handsome and charming in his youth and was called ladies man.He never got married and always make fun of people who take such huge responsibility and  make such long commitments.

He used to think that  life is not for bearing such pains but just to  enjoy yourself  and celebrate life everyday with new view of it's.When i came here after marriage i lived for many years with my in laws  as over here people then mostly prefer joint family system then.At that time  baba amboo was  about to reach his seventies.


                                             don't  leave your desk alone and empty 

Though he was nice man with kind heart who keeps smiling mostly  and was economically independent  but i always saw in his  eyes  a  painful emptiness  which revealed his dissatisfaction and restlessness.He was very kind to me and  once he offered me that he wants to give me a huge   plot to make  a separate house when he saw my mother in law unkind to me but i did not agree because i did not want my relationship with him any worldly reason as  i got  a bad habit to  be kind and friendly with all my relatives and friends or even people who i meet first time i can't help it.

In  whole big family i was the one who look after him in his last days,when  he many times cried and said that he made wrong decision i should have get married and make family ,i  have everything but still i feel incomplete and the biggest pain of my life is that i am leaving along with this incompleteness and can't remove the heavy stone of regret from my heart.

                                           Leave  someone behind to chase your footsteps 

When he  died it was 2 30 am he took his last breath with great hardness and then his body  became still.It was December 's night  i knocked the doors of other family members's door and told about his death i still  remember that night when everybody heard it with no care and no one came out of his room to see him except me and my husband.I was very shocked to see such ruthlessness.He was very kind and giving to everyone but after his death all their warmth was gone  as it was  all fake .

                    family  makes you complete  because it is the demand of nature 's process 

That was the night when i decided to take separate home and and few years  we moved from there .In my mind that question comes repeatedly that do you think no mater how beautiful and luxurious life you live  at the end of the day  why do you need a partner and kids .does it make you feel complete and without it you feel lost ?

have a lovely spring everyone.

25 comments:

  1. Your own family is special and very important.

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  2. It is so important to live one's life without regret. Not easy to do though.

    Have a great week.

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  3. So sad about your uncle through marriage. I am glad you showed him compassion and love where others might not have. It seems like your uncle may have thought he was doing something good by not being married, but wonder if deep in his heart through the years and not just his final days he wondered if that was the wisest of decisions. I do believe we need people in our lives to make life more enjoyable and easier, perhaps even a bit more complete.

    betty

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  4. You are a very kind person and your Uncle in Law was very lucky to have you to look after him, but then he did also look out for you.
    I expect he had more money because he never married.
    That was his choice no doubt, what he wanted and many people today down this end of the world don't get married or have children. I think when they get older they might regret it.

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  5. I'm glad your Uncle by marriage had you beside him during his last days. It's often said that we regret the things we didn't do, more than the things we did; it seems it was true for him.

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  6. How wonderful that you were so kind with your uncle. You are a good soul.

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  7. Thank you for visiting my blog...SO sorry about the loss of your uncle in law....

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  8. Wow, how awful that they didn't seem to care about the death of your uncle... how sad :-(

    Thank you for your kind comment on my blog xox

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  9. In the end, he did have a family and it was you! I'm glad he inspired you to get your own home.

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  10. I can see why you were Baba Amboo's favourite.

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  11. Even though he expressed regret as he lay dying I believe the uncle made the best choice for him. If he had a family that he did not want at the time he would not have been as kind to them as they should have a right to expect. Many people are not meant to be parents. As he aged I am sure he had regrets because there was no one there but you to care about him and that is a selfish emotion. I am not trying to make him out to be a bad person because I do not believe he was. He lived his life as he wished. That is what each of us should strive for.

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  12. we really have nobody closer than our partners and kids if we're lucky enough to have them

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  13. Toni is right. He did have a family, and you were there for him. I am sorry that other people stepped away, and glad that you could be there.

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  14. How sad it is for anyone to have regrets at the end, when it's too late to do anything about it. Your uncle-in-law was still fortunate, though, because he had you and your husband. Not the same as a life with spouse and children, but you cared for him when he needed you the most. Bless you for that.

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  15. It is sad if a person does have regrets when he or she reaches the end of life.
    You were so very kind to your Uncle and in a way with his death your world widened,

    All the best Jan

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  16. It is sad if a person does have regrets when he or she reaches the end of life.
    You were so very kind to your Uncle and in a way with his death your world widened,

    All the best Jan

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  17. People need to live with their decisions later on. Some seem to forget that.

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  18. He had you as his family and that, to me, is very important. I'm grateful that I have my husband and children and one day, I hope to have my children's children too.

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  19. What a bitter sweet entry. I am sure that Uncle appreciated your love and honesty. Surely one sees thru the 'facade' of not true love.
    But I do agree, it is better to have a family of closer ties, your children.
    Thanks for stopping by the Shipslog.
    Love from North CArolina USA

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  20. Memories of someone lost are precious in our lives.

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  21. This dear gentleman whom you called Baba Amboo must have very grateful for the kindness and thoughtfulness you showed him which was beyond measure. Thank you for sharing his story.

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  23. I think he knew how it would all be at the end. I also see a man full of pride and emptyness in his soul. Im glad you were good to him and showed him true friendship without wanting anything in return. Great post.
    Lisa

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  24. Hello darling and thank you for visiting my blog. I like your thoughts and stories, you got a huge heart. May God bless you and your family! Liuba x

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  25. Beautiful thoughtful post. You are a wonderful person.

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