Monday, July 3, 2017

After Eid Post

                 

Hey  Dear   Friends!



      Hope   everybody    is   doing    great  and    not   only   living    but    living   beautifully  ,with    acknowledgment    of    blessings    given   by    Creator ,sense   of   gratitude   and   limitless    love    for    humans    and    humanity .


    This   photo  was   taken  yesterday , younger   son   set   the   timer   to  take  the  photo



My    son    left    last    night    for   Karachi.    Until    he   was   here   we   had   great    time   together .  We    celebrate   our   Eid   for   three   days   and   during    these   days   my    in laws    visit   mostly  . It   is   huge    pleasure   to   have   guests   on   Eid   because   it    reduces    my   sadness   of   missing    my   parents    and    sister    on    this   occasion .I   get    busy   in    serving    and   chatting   with   them   and    heart    becomes    lighter .  I    am    not    much    social    but   enjoy   such    events  and   gatherings    with   close   family    members . I   cooked    my   son's   favorite   meals   too   and   this   is   huge    satisfaction   for   me. Before   leaving    i   made   him   some   food    to   have   when   he   get   there.    Just   while  ago  he    called   that    he    reached   and   having   breakfast   before   leaving   for   office..


Now    back    to   little    story   of   my   stay   in   flat   back   in   Karachi   when   i   visited   my   son  before   Eid.


We   lived   in   top   floor  where  four   flats   were   situated   front  of   each   other .  I   am   creature   from   village   and   then   from   a   small    town   like   city   where   all   houses   lay   lazily   on   ground   as   you    see    people   resting   beside    beaches   in   relaxing   mood   with   no   rush   or   frustration . I  was   completely   unaware   of    some  certain   rules   of   flatious   life .


It    is   my   habit    that    when   i  enter  among   new   people   i   greet   by   saying   "Asslamoalaikum "[ greeting  words which  means "may  you  be  blessed"]  many   times   all   people   reply ,sometime   only   few,    and   few  times  no one   reply   but   it   does   not   bother   me   because   i   say   it   without   excepting   any   response  ,just   to   fulfill   my    duty   and   just   to   respect   myself .


When   first   time    ladies    living   in   other   three   floors   encountered   i   greeted   verbally  , one  lady  who  seemed  in   her   forties  and  little   friendly  replied   warmly .Second  followed   her   with   weaker  voice  third   the   older  one  just   moved   her   head   and   fourth   who   was   younger   did   not   say  a   word  ,she   just   looked   for   second   and  turned   as   she   saw   me   by   mistakenly . She  was   probably   38  and   had   a  daughter    who   was   consistently   bearing    the    stern   accent  and   biting   eyes   of   her    mother . During    all   my   stay   i   often   heard    her  cries   as   she   was   being  beating     or   abusing   from   her   mother .


The    lady    from    front    flat   became   regular   visitor  and   she   did   not   stop   asking   me   to   visit   her   too   until   i   visited   her.   She  seemed    talkative  and   gentle  .She   was   one   who   told   about    weird   lady   that   she   is   tough   one   to   be   around,   always   shouting   on   her    daughter  and   try   to   teach   her   things   more   difficult   to   her   age.  Almost    always   in   bad   mood   and   back   biting   is   her   favorite    past   time  . She   also    spy   on   people   around   and   tell   people's    weaknesses   to   others . I    heard    all   but   was   fine   as   had   some   days   only   to   live   there .


Once    did   my   laundry   and   hung    all    clothes   on   wires   tided   outside   the   balcony .After   doing   this   i   came   in   and   sat   to   relax   ,meanwhile   heard    quite    loud   knock   on   door  instead   of   the   bell   ringing  as    someone  was  enough   angry   to   beat    the   door.   i   went   out   and   found   a   quite   fat    lady   who   seemed   35  or  six   breathing    terribly  . I   had   no   idea   what   happened   so   asked   politely ,she    burst  out  


 "   i   came   from   lower   floor   and   you    ruined    all    my    clothes "  i  was   surprised   so   asked   "how"  she    said   you   hung   the   clothes   without   informing   me   so   i   can   pull   my    clothes   from   wire   below  ,as   they    were   dried   but   water   dripping   from   my   wet   clothes   made    her    clothes   wet   again.  i   realized    my    mistake    and   felt   bad    for   her .I   apologized    and   said   that   i   did   not   know   about   this   and   next    time   i   will   check   and   inform   her. she    seemed   as   she   came   to     fight  only   as   was   repeating   my   mistake   consistently  .I    kept   saying    sorry   with   smiles   and   soft  accent .

I   could    feel    the   all    conscious  ears  and   eyes   peeking   through   the   door   fences  .Specially   the  weird   one   who   stepped    out   and   was   enjoying   the   mess  with   her   sharp   torch   like   eyes   and   hardly    watchable   smile .

Finally   the   fat   lady   left   after   my   many   attempts   of   apology . But   it   was   not   end   and   i   did   not   know  this.   After   few   days   i   did   my   laundry   again   and   sent   my   elder   son   to  fat    girl   of   lower   floor    that   if   her   clothes   are   dried   she   can   pull   them   off  so   we   can   put   their   our's .  My   son   came   and   said   that    she    said   you   have   to   wait   for   tow   hours. I   waited   four   hours   and   then   went   to   hung   my   clothes   ,it   was   almost   evening .  I    peeked   down    the   clothes   of   fat    girl   were   still   there   but   i   thought   i   waited   more   than   enough  so    hung   my   clothes  .

After   few   minutes   heard   again   a   loud   knock   and   she   was   again   there   with   furious   mood   and  piercing    eyes.   This    time   though   i   felt    angry    because   she   knew   that   it   was   not   my   fault   this   time  still   she    was   ready   to   fight   on   pointless   thing . She    said    she   had   guests   in   house   and   forget    to   pull   off    but   i   should   call   her   name   aloud    once    again  before   hanging   my   clothes . I    insisted    politely    that     i   followed   her   instructions    and    this   time   it   is   clearly   her   mistake   but   still   if   she   insists    i   will   re in   form   her   next   time .

Lady  from   front   flat   took   great    interest   in   matter   and   said   that  " this   fat   lady   is   unmarried   and   looking  after   her   brother's  children .The   weird   lady   is    teasing   her   to   fight   with   you because   you   are   so    simple   and   polite    so    they   are   playing   with   you . You   should   react    strictly   otherwise   they   will   make   you   miserable ." as  they   do   to   other   often"


I   in   my   heart   smiled   at    her    thought  .I    thought     such    less   wise   people   hurt    only   themselves   by    doing   such    stupid   actions  .Their   restlessness    provoke   them   to   act   foolishly  but   they    cannot    snatch    the   peace   of   true   and   loyal    heart.    I   was   glad   that   i  was   informed   so   i   decided   to   be   more   careful .

Next    time   when   i   did   laundry   i   checked   wire    below   and   it   was   empty   then   .I   hung   clothes    and   after  almost   ten    minutes    heard   knock   again   ,same   lady   same   attitude and   same  complain  .It   was   simply   a   trick  ,weird   lady   told   the  fat   lady   about   my   hanging   clothes   and   both  arranged   to    hang   somehow  some      clothes    there   just   to    create   situation.  I   was    calm   and   did    not    say    a   single    word   ,when   fat   lady  got   no   response   she   hold    my   hand   and   pulled   me   towards   her   lower   flat ,i   realized   she   was  expecting   resistance    or   any   angry   reaction  but   i   did   not   pleased   her .

I   went   with   her    down   and   touched  her   clothes   which   got   some   drops   from   my    clothes   above   and   said    ,You    know   i   am   not    laying " these   clothes  were  not   here  before " and   returned .I   don't   know   it   was   the   effect   of   my   simple   words   or  what  they  did   not   repeat   that   again.

The   day   we   left   i    sent   packets   of   dates   as   gifts   to   flats  around   and   one   for   the   fat   girl   too   ,i   thought   she   will   not   accept   it  but   she   did   and   this   was   my   pleasure .

Before   leaving   lady   from   front   flat   told  that   the   fat   girl  was   parsing   your   patience   and   kindness   to   her   as   she   almost   forced  you  to   fight      but   you   stayed   calm " here  we   thought   that   people   from   small   cities  are   so   ignorant  and  fight    easily "

I   said   that   this   thought   is   based   on   ignorance  ,no   particular   place   have    bad   or   ignorant   people .all   places   have   variety  of   people .sometime   you   find   some   well   educated  and  advance   people   behave   like   most   ignorant   ones  and   people   with   very less worldly   education  act   like   wise  and  sober .

Dear   fellows   please   take   good   care   of  yourselves !
Stay  ,strong   and    happy   : )  
  God    Bless   You   All!!!


30 comments:

  1. A lesson well-learned for your readers. It is important to remain calm in all situations, Where ever one goes they run into people with a wide-variety of personalities,

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  2. What a terrible experience, so good that you could leave and come home in the end.

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  3. You have a patient, kind spirit, Baili. I doubt I could have reacted as you did.

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  4. Oh my goodness, some people have nothing better to do with their time than try to make other people's lives miserable. I would not want that fat lady as MY neighbour!

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  5. It is good to show patience and calmness. Some people seem like all they are interested in is antagonizing others.

    Indeed there are good, bad and in between people coming from all kinds of places.

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  6. Oh Baili...that's quite a story. Bored people with chips on their shoulder huh? I'm glad you stood your ground! I have so many stories from my apartment days...most I with to forget about lol...your family photo is lovely, you all look so happy! :)

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  7. That is a lovely family photo :-)

    As to the ladies in the flat... It is a shame that they have nothing better to do than try and pick a fight.

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  8. It sounds like you had a good family day with your son and in laws. sometimes we have to ignore rude people.

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  9. You have a lovely family. I am sorry someone tried to spoil your visit to your son. You handled the situation so well.

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  10. What an experience. You were quite impressive. Thank you for sharing it. And thank you for that great picture of your family.
    May goodness be with you.

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  11. A wonderful family photo, very nice. The way you handled yourself with the lady in the flat is a great lesson from which they can learn to be nicer people. Thanks for sharing this wonderful story.
    Have a nice day!

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  12. You handled the situation very well!

    A big hug!

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  13. beautiful family photo!!! we use our timer ofter, to capture images of the 2 of us!!!

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  14. What a lovely photo of you and your family, Baili! I can feel your love for each other. As for your experience in the flat in Karachi, how unfortunate. You handled yourself with grace, restraint, and calmness. It is not easy living crowded together in small spaces, and it is made more difficult when people are unhappy with their lives and deal with it by being mean to others. I'll bet home feels so good! Take care, my friend!

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  15. Patience always wins with nasty people :)

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  16. Thank you Baili for sharing the great photo of your family and I was glad to see that you may be feeling better now. Also, I noticed that your middle son dressed in the same manner as his father, but that your oldest and youngest son dressed in a "western" manner. Your 3 sons are very tall, nice looking young men. As for that neighbor lady, she obviously was just looking for a fight. It was nice of you to bring her a gift of dates and I hope she appreciated it.

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    1. Thank you dear Beatrice for such kind comment , actually my husband is too shy to wear western dress as i often ask him to try but he refuses by saying that it won't look good at me which definitely is not true .
      my younger son is very moody in his dressings and chooses according to his own mood though he likes the western one too but prefers eastern now days .

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  17. Dear Baili - I think the joy of staying with your son far surpassed the terrible incident caused by the neighboring lady. I’m happy for you that you could stay calm; I tend to think I’m tested if something bad happens. That way, you passed gracefully the test, Baili. The nice photo of your happy, beautiful family made me feel happy, too. Have healthy and happy days ahead.

    Yoko

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  18. It is good to see your happy family in the photo. We have to know how to respond in times like this especially with difficult people looking for fights.

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  19. That laundry lady should do some volunteer work or pick up a hobby or read a book. Some people have nothing better to do than bother others. You are extremely patient!

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    1. Thank you dear Martha!
      you are absolutely right but this is the main problem that when such people feel stuck themselves and take revenge from others of it . they torture others for their own self produced sufferings instead of doing something productive

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  20. You have a wonderful family. I'm glad she did not let you lose your temper.

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  21. You are so right, baili - there are good and kind people in every segment of society, just as there are mean-spirited people in every place. It depends on the person, nothing else! You showed a very good example of how to meet this kind of behavior with patience and understanding (and brains, too) ... I hope you are feeling stronger and more well every day. Lovely picture of your family.

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  22. Dear Baili, a very special family photo, how lovely your son came to visit. I read your story about this lady and admired your reaction to her rudeness. It is hard to deal with such people but you showed true grace and a great lesson for us all to follow. Thank you my friend and I wish you a wonderful day.

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  23. It’s good that you could stay calm and polite. :-)
    Your family photo is so very lovely! Have a beautiful weekend ahead, dear Baili! Hugs! :-)

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  24. Good going! Your beautiful soul shined through! Your words are very wise! Big Hugs!

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  25. What a handsome family you have. I love seeing the faces that must inspire you tow rite such lovely stories. :) Erika

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  26. What a story dear friend. It shows how true the verse is that says "a soft answer turns away wrath"... so hard to do in difficult circumstances, but as you saw, it was a test and how wonderful it is to know that the grace of the Lord helped you to be a witness to this lady. Blessings to you dear friend, may the presence of the Lord continue to be with you and keep you!

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  27. Oh Dear Baili I think you demonstrated patience and understanding ...

    The picture of your family is just lovely, one to treasure.
    I am so pleased that you are feeling a lot better, may your good recovery continue.

    All the best Jan

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