tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post5033339025971150435..comments2024-03-29T00:20:30.442-07:00Comments on Baili And I...: Sandwich Like bailihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06498012175058870980noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-17060316196047490332017-03-19T18:48:51.379-07:002017-03-19T18:48:51.379-07:00I agree with Jan too!!! Every word she said!
Big ...I agree with Jan too!!! Every word she said! <br />Big Hugs!Magic Love Crowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133368208464734546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-41096311580156079792017-03-19T02:39:01.967-07:002017-03-19T02:39:01.967-07:00How sweet of you dear friend to take some time out...How sweet of you dear friend to take some time out of such intense conditions and dropping me such kind coment .<br />Love you for this kindness dear .bailihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06498012175058870980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-3834498060033419792017-03-18T14:13:26.982-07:002017-03-18T14:13:26.982-07:00Hi, Baili!
You were certainly in a difficult sit...Hi, Baili! <br />You were certainly in a difficult situation at your niece's wedding. Like Red Rose Alley said above, I think you are gracious and genuine and that's why they turned to you. Swimming in turbulent family currents can be tricky! <br /><br />I'm not confrontational, so it's hard for me in those sandwich situations. I usually try to remove myself, but when I can't, I politely say that I love (or care about) both of them and don't want to take sides or get caught in the middle. Then I try to shift the conversation to another topic. Fortunately this doesn't happen too often. Afterwards I try to talk with each of them alone and listen to them, but I still won't choose sides and I would never tell either one what the other said. In some situations, it helps just to have someone listen, and I suspect that you are an excellent and compassionate listener.<br /><br />In my family we have an agreement not to talk about money, religion, or politics. Of course, we sometimes get pulled in, and if debating and arguments get heated, someone will jump in and remind us that we're forgetting our agreement, that we need to chill and talk about something else.<br /><br />I was commenting to this sandwich post yesterday and was interrupted. We're staying in a little hotel on Waikiki in Honolulu, and the only place to access internet is in the lobby (or with my computer on our bathroom sink in our room). We have made friends at our hotel over the past few years, so it's hard at times to work on my computer because everyone wants to talk. Not that that's a bad thing! It just means I don't get much internet time.<br /> Fundy Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02132147630106183853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-58956560520782312062017-03-17T17:17:18.158-07:002017-03-17T17:17:18.158-07:00Sorry to hear you had to go through this situation...Sorry to hear you had to go through this situation with friends. I think you are a gracious person and genuine, and that's why they both want your attention. I have also had this happen to me at different times in my life. <br /><br />~SheriRed Rose Alleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685747099912989862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-58540344965086619822017-03-17T02:00:10.263-07:002017-03-17T02:00:10.263-07:00I don't try at all to keep my relations with t...I don't try at all to keep my relations with the family better, I just ignore them :))) DEZMONDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14127166104359407763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-63150364879275356492017-03-16T20:27:40.334-07:002017-03-16T20:27:40.334-07:00Bless your heart, such a difficult situation to fi...Bless your heart, such a difficult situation to find yourself in! It is always hard to find yourself in the middle of a situation, where you never can win. Visiting with each sister separately would be best, if possible, and then telling them you love them, but want to stay out of the way of the argument, and not take sides. May the Lord bless you friend :) Marilyn @ MountainTopSpicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00600290895531484438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-46741720446762670462017-03-16T11:50:09.030-07:002017-03-16T11:50:09.030-07:00I would try to find someone else to talk to and no...I would try to find someone else to talk to and not catch either ladies eyes.And if one of them came up to me I would be suddenly needing to go to the bathroom...Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-42653121833968513492017-03-16T10:33:10.201-07:002017-03-16T10:33:10.201-07:00Hello Baili, Thank you for commenting on my blog.
...Hello Baili, Thank you for commenting on my blog.<br />I have no advice for you in the difficult family situation you find yourself in. In my own family we have a much the same situation and it can make family get togethers awkward. But we keep trying to do what's right. Have a good day.Granny Marigoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15858237999602347848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-27025887567258051022017-03-16T07:58:01.227-07:002017-03-16T07:58:01.227-07:00Thank you for your comment on my snow blog post!!!...Thank you for your comment on my snow blog post!!! :-)<br /><br />As for me, at my advanced age, I do not let anyone put me in a position, where I could get a head ache. I would have told both of them, to stop. Politely of course.<br /><br />And then, ask/suggest, that we have an adult, 3 way conversation. Begin it myself.<br /><br />And if they did not stop the impolite talking, I would have excused myself. Politely, of course. Without another thought, about the situation.<br /><br />But I am in the US. Perhaps your Rules Of Society, do not allow you, to do this....<br /><br />Luna Crone Beside a babbling brook...https://www.blogger.com/profile/14230422491225783790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-37953495495100633462017-03-16T06:06:39.865-07:002017-03-16T06:06:39.865-07:00difficult situation, i think you handles it well. ...difficult situation, i think you handles it well. Sussihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06772970147884287676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-65294510491438507152017-03-15T17:31:46.579-07:002017-03-15T17:31:46.579-07:00This is a tough situation you were put in by your ...This is a tough situation you were put in by your family. Not easy to be in the middle. I wish I had some good advice for you. When I have been in that situation I have tried to explain to both people that I feel a little uncomfortable because I am friends with both of them and that I will do my best to spend time with both people, but that I do not want to discuss the problems they are having with each other. Definitely not an easy thing to talk about at a wedding. Sorry for you and your headache!<br />~JessDMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04202502753961748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-49059080207205956002017-03-15T11:17:30.453-07:002017-03-15T11:17:30.453-07:00I'm afraid I would have done exactly as you di...I'm afraid I would have done exactly as you did, baili ... I don't like to lay down rules that people have to follow "or else". I prefer to try to get along, even if it's uncomfortable for me, especially when it's at someone else's home or party. If you see these ladies on other occasions, that might be the time to say something privately. But if you hardly ever see them, I don't know if anything you said would help, and it might cause unhappiness for the host or hostess. Sorry I don't have much wisdom on this. Good luck, and I hope your headache is better now.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-52976362630731018772017-03-15T09:16:00.634-07:002017-03-15T09:16:00.634-07:00I think you handled this very well. Sometimes bei...I think you handled this very well. Sometimes being polite doesn't necessarily mean being comfortable in a situation. Hopefully you don't have to see them both at one time very often! AndreaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-83352700850103480812017-03-15T02:14:49.718-07:002017-03-15T02:14:49.718-07:00So sorry to hear that you are facing this dilemma....So sorry to hear that you are facing this dilemma. Conflicts involving family and friends can be so difficult. <br /><br />I agree with those who advise you to make it clear that you will not be placed in the middle of this. I would add that you yourself gave some great advice that can apply to this situation. Handle it with bright smile!<br /><br />Have a great day!Brian Josephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15139559400312336791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-3918048680278470812017-03-15T02:12:43.946-07:002017-03-15T02:12:43.946-07:00Both Jan and Betty gave you the best advice. You c...Both Jan and Betty gave you the best advice. You can't ignore such rude behaviour. Sometimes one has to confront it, politely.Elizabethdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02405703727112759947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-80862285865967427412017-03-14T23:33:07.022-07:002017-03-14T23:33:07.022-07:00heehee.
is it ok if i mention.
that the photo yo...heehee. <br />is it ok if i mention. <br />that the photo you used of the sandwich is from the restaurant called Chick-fil-A. <br />it is also ok if i mention. <br />that i ate that exact sandwich for lunch? <br /><br />anywayyyyyyyyyy. <br />you offered some great advice here! this seemed like a very difficult situation. i hope everything works out. <br /><br />blessings to you! <3Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206892018301821133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-29625446385960855532017-03-14T19:50:45.774-07:002017-03-14T19:50:45.774-07:00Oh gosh, not so good for you and it often doesn...Oh gosh, not so good for you and it often doesn't work out two brother's or sister's in business together.<br />As for you being in the middle, that's not good either.<br />My advice is do not talk about one to the other, just listen to each one quietly for nothing is ever gained with a lot of loud chatter.<br />Good luck.Margaret Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14074619859060647600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-15146053977953003282017-03-14T17:55:22.242-07:002017-03-14T17:55:22.242-07:00Crikey .... I'd just disentangle myself from b...Crikey .... I'd just disentangle myself from both of them and walk away ...... far away ..... it's their problem not yours. Charliedownunderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10212403434770733660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-79265864801189017842017-03-14T16:41:01.675-07:002017-03-14T16:41:01.675-07:00Being in the middle is a terrible position to be i...Being in the middle is a terrible position to be in. I would talk to each one separately and tell them that you care about both and refuse to take sides. If they can live with that, you can continue a relationship. If they can't, you will go separate ways. No one needs to have that type of drama in their lives!Marthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09262406079948479112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-47324392048476015802017-03-14T16:16:52.337-07:002017-03-14T16:16:52.337-07:00Times like this are not pleasant and can prove dif...Times like this are not pleasant and can prove difficult.<br />I think it best not to get pulled into the argument and definitely do not take sides. Try to speak with them individually would be the best path to take ...<br /><br />All the best JanLowcarb team memberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07961199165290289611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-14371040123343773142017-03-14T15:59:50.446-07:002017-03-14T15:59:50.446-07:00I feel for you, I have been in a similar situation...I feel for you, I have been in a similar situation but thankfully not family members.<br /><br />The only thing you can do is not been drawn into the argument and don't take sides even though both of them want you too. It is hard work and tedious.CherryPiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11788084724907992076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-78675320696512669702017-03-14T15:20:17.232-07:002017-03-14T15:20:17.232-07:00Sorry about that. I believe it is important not to...Sorry about that. I believe it is important not to be drawn into a conflict. Don't give negativity and energy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-48098108734049180222017-03-14T12:40:14.008-07:002017-03-14T12:40:14.008-07:00It seems that both of these people are unwilling t...It seems that both of these people are unwilling to listen to any common sense. My only suggestion...change the topic.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-72114166005924937262017-03-14T11:42:28.109-07:002017-03-14T11:42:28.109-07:00100% behind Jan's response. Refuse to be invol...100% behind Jan's response. Refuse to be involved in their drama.<br /><br /> Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187611054293001721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4309826816742200785.post-70186992575865762722017-03-14T10:51:22.152-07:002017-03-14T10:51:22.152-07:00I would say to them that I would speak to each of ...I would say to them that I would speak to each of them separately as they are family. I would walk away until they are reafy to speak individually.Marie Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03882722634065183364noreply@blogger.com