Friday, April 21, 2017

A cute photo ! and a Related Story

Hello   Dear    Friends!

Hope  and   pray    that   all    of    you    are   filling    exact   and   precise     amount    of    your   desires     in   the    blank    check    of    LIFE     given   in    your   hands   by    your    Creator.

It    makes    easy   everything   if    we    already    know    clearly   that    what    we   ACTUALLY    want    and   don't   feel    tempted    by    false    shine    of    sand   who    gives    to  our   eyes   the    illusion    of    water .

Dear   friends    few    days   ago   i    saw    this   cute      photo   on   Facebook    shared   by   by   someone   whom   i    don't   know   personally     though    but    found    interesting   enough   to   save  in   my   smart   phone   gallery .

Tow    days     ago    i   went   to   meet   one   of   my    sister   in   law [wife  of  hubby's   brother]   where  i    met    her   sister   who   was   good   friend   of   mine  . She    for   the    first   time    seemed   so    broken    and   sad.  She   made   me    shock   with   her   harsh    words    and    hateful   accent    for   her    husband   to    whom    she   was   married   since    more   than   23   years .

It    was   love   marriage    arranged    by     parents .Both   husband   and   wife   were   idealized    as    perfect    couple   and   never   heard   of   any    clash   or   even   rumor   of   little    misunderstanding  . She   looked   happily   settled    with   man   of   her   dreams   who   was  established   well   economically  too.  They    have    four   daughters    and    three   sons   and   most   of   them   are   grownups   now.

She   was   sharing   her   pains   for   the   first    time   that   she    loved   and   choose   this   man   because   she   knew    that   he   is   all    by   his   own   and   has   no   family   around   to   bother .She   wanted   a   separate   home   without   any   kind   of   inlaws    relationship   to   enjoy   her   life   with    freedom   and   obvious   love   with   her   husband.

She    told    that    she   got   what   she   wanted.   Unlike   her   other    sisters    who   were   stuck    in   joint    family   system   she   was   having   fun  full   life   with   her   man.  She   said   she   thought   it    all    would       go   same   forever   but   within  two   years    she    felt   that   her   husband   lost   his   interest   in    her .She   also   later   heard   about   his   affairs    but   stayed   silent   because    she   did    not   want   anyone    to    find   out   her   fallen    situation    as   she   felt   with   each   day   as   she   is   falling    into   deep   dark   well.

She   told   that   after   those   early   two   years   she   only   suffered   with   the   cruel   and   rude   behavior   of   her   husband .She   said   she  doesn't   want   live  with   this   man   anymore  as   she   is   tired  of   pretending   as   perfect    couple  .

I   cannot   tell   how   shocked   i   was   because   i   used   to   appreciate   this   couple   and   idealized   them   as  a  best   couple  .  Because    here   mostly   couple   have   to   live   in   joint   families   and     parents    are   not   left   alone .   Specially   when   they   are   very   old . In    such   conditions   a   couple    since   early   days   of   their   marriage   cannot    afford   to   be  EXPRESSIVE   or   EXPOSED  in   their   love   relationships   while   surrounding   by   so   many,   Somehow    it    keeps   the   attraction   of   both   for   each   other   strong   and   mostly   by    the   time   love   and   bonding   get    stronger   and   deeper   among   them.

Though   sometime   if   people   around   are   negative    they   affect   relationship   in   bad   ways   too  but  both  possibilities   exist   there   equally.  I    spent   16    years   and   really   hard   one   with   my   in   laws   ,Hard   times    raised   differences   between   us   often   in   early   years   of   marriage.   But   each   time   we   get   annoyed   with   each   other   we   realized    that    we   cannot   live   without   talking   to   each   other    for   more   than   few   days   .An   unseen   force   compelled   us   towards   each   other   and   we   got   back   to   our   normal   behaviors.

One  thing   that   made   our   relationship    work   is   i   believe   that    once    in    a   while   we   both   appreciated   and   acknowledged    each   other's   effort    for   making   this   marriage   and   life    together    work    successfully .   These     appreciations    echoed   in    our   heart   whenever    we   were   annoyed .

I    strongly    believe   that    acknowledgment     and   appreciation    is   key   to   successful   marriage  .While   facing   up down  situations   remembering   the   GOOD   TIMES  THAT    WE   HAD   TOGETHER   is   another   most   important    thing .  Physical    pleasures    are    timely   attraction   but    spiritual    bounding     is    True   Base   of   a   healthy    relationship  that   is   what  i   believe.

i   think   this   topic   can   extends   into   endless   posting  friends ,so   i   have   to   stop  and   say   "   See    you   soon   my   friends!
Please    keep   check   on   yourself   as   if   you   are   taking   good   care   of   yourself   in   all   means   or   not.  Stay   strong  and   focused  to   be  happy   and  to   make   your   environment  happy  too!

God    Bless    You    All!

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

My Old Sewing Machine and Current Blooms!

Hello    Precious   Friends!

Hope   and   pray   that   all    of    you   are   choosing    all    your   most    favorite   colors   to   beautify    the   paintings   of   your   lovely   lives.

As   we   all   get   this   painting   of   life   only   as   a  outline   and   all    that   we   put   in   it   to   make   it   Meaningful,    Unique   and   Beautiful    is   our   OWN   CHOICE.

End    of     the   day   the    output   we   see   is   obviously   the   the   result   of   our   own   input,so   being   be careful   about   the   selection   of   colors   is   upon   our   wisdom   and   insight    towards   life  .

Dear    friends    it   is    12  am[noon]  i   just   got   back   from   kitchen  after   cooking   chicken  korma   for   the   lunch  and   finishing  my  laundry.  Sun    is   shining   brightly    with  37c  temperature .   Here   in   southern   Pakistan   rains   are   rare   and   as   i   spent   my   childhood    and  some   of   youth   in   northern   native   land   so   still   MISS  RAINS   SOOOOOOO  MUCH!

Today    i   am   sharing   some   more   very   current   blooms   of   my   front   yard   and   photo   of   my   27   year   old   sewing    machine   which   was   wedding   gift   by   late   mother .

Though   i   use   it   quite   less  now   but   used   lot   when   i   had   only   one   son  eldest  one   and   had   enough   time   to    afford   any   kind   of   hobby  .I   sewed   many   suits   for   myself  and  later  for  younger   kids .Unlike   mom,   sewing   was    never   my   passion   but   i   did   it   just   to   check   as   if   i   could ?   May   be   i   could   little  bit .

Last  day   after  almost  7  years  i   finished  one  of  my  own  summer   season 's  lawn   suit  ,it   took   three   days  as   whenever   i   got   some   free time   i   moved   it   forward ,finally   ready,not   good   but   wear  able  .

              Pomegranate   tree   is   sprinkling   it's   lovely   red   smiles  in  my   yard 

             Noon   flowers   ,they   closed   their   adorable   pink   eyes  when  sun   sets.

                                                    White   flower  tree  and  sunflower 

                                           Sada   Bahar  flower  which means  forever  flower 

                           When  sun  showers  it's  rays  my  neem  tree  looks   more   gorgeous !

                                            side view  to  share some yellow  beauties!

                                      Caught   this   naughty   little   friend  last  evening  

                                                             By   the   Grace   of   God!!!

                    Two    days    ago   when   sky   showed   some  enchanting  mood!

See   you   soon   friends, time   to   get   up   and   run   to   prepare   bread [roti]  for  lunch   as  they  are   about   to   get   back  .

Take   great   care  ,stay   happy  and    positive  to   turn   all   in   your   favor .
God   Bless   You   All!

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

The Girl interrupted , Sometime it happens

Hello  my  precious  friends !

Hope    and   pray   that    you    are   learning   more   and  more   ART   OF   LIFE   by   the   each   passing   day.

Time  is    naughty    teacher   though   and   it's   ways   of    teaching   are   unpredictable    and   Technics    are    surprising     yet   good   students   never   skip   the   class   and     never    avoid   the   studies   until    the   last   breathe .

We    all    know    that    no   matter    whatever   we    do   LEARNING   is   the   ONLY   SOURCE   OF    PLEASURE .  While   facing   the   toughest    times  of   life   or   during    being   entertain    by    any    form   of   art     we    get    sense   of   joy    consciously   or   unconsciously     because    we   Learn!

Sometime    we    learn   from   mistakes   that   other   make   and   sometime   lessons   comes   from   wiser   resources    around   us  .We     admit   it   or   not   we   learn   more   from    people   who   are   less   clever   or   called   fools , While    laughing    at   them   huge   joy   comes    from   the   learning    that  " we   will  never   be   doing   this" .

People   who   absorb   positivity   from   this   process   of   learning  change   somehow   for   better     and    today   i   am   sharing   with   you   an   incident   which   often   springs    up   in   my   mind   when   usually    i    watch    some   drama    or   movie    with   happy   ending   when   all    characters   at   the   end   change    their   perspective   and   behavior    and   things   resolve   finally   with   ease.

When   my   grandma    admitted    me   in   the   school   i   was   eight  [ we  migrated  from  city  to  village  when  i  was  six  and  mom;s  brother  were  not  letting  me  go   to   school  because  for   a   girl   it   was   not   safe  and  right  they  thought , so  mom  's   courage   took   two   more   years   to   go   against  them   and   send   me   school ]    and   only   girl   from   the   village     among    some   boys   including   my   cousins .  We      everyday   go   to    school   by   walking    on   hills   covered   with   bushes   and   in   the   beginning   i   fell   lot   and  my   knees   were   always   injured    as    it   was   absolutely   new   thing   for   me   but    i    loved   this   adventurous   journey   every time .

There  were  and  are  two   kinds  of   school   ,one   the  govt  school  with  free  education   where  kids  learn   all   subjects  in  national   language Urdu.Other  Private  school   where  students  learn  English  alongwith  Urdu  and  fesses  are  quite  high

The  school   was   in   another   village .It   had     few   large   rooms   but   chairs   were   only   for   teachers .  All   the    students   would   sit   on    the   long    rectangular      mats   in   the   huge   front    yard   with    an   very    old     tree     and   hand   pump.  There    were   only   two   teachers  of  middle    for   almost   70   plus   kids   from   grade   one    to   grade   five . When    my   teacher   took   my   admission    test   he   had   put   me   in   grade    two   because   i   passed   it   with   good   marks .

All    the   boys   in   school   were   little    undisciplined   and   kind   of   wild   to   me   because   they    used   to   talk    so   loudly   and   often   fight   with   each   other   on   hand pump   specially.

Most    of   them    were   tall    and   i   felt   scare   of   them   particularly   when   after   each    test    my   teacher   praised   me   for    my    performance   front   of   them   and   asked    them   to   be   "cock" [it  was  term  for  punishment  in  which   boys   had   to  sit   in  a  very   weird   position  by   crossing   their   arms   under   their   legs and   hit   them   on    their   buts   while   saying   that  
"shame   on   you   all  boys"look   at   this   little   girl   she  is    tall   as   your   leg   and  in   many   grade   behind   but   she   defeated   you  all"

The    boys   seemed    so   angry   with   me   and   i   could   sense   their   hate   for   me .There   were  four    more   girls   in  school ,one   in   my   grade    and  two    in   four  . In   school    me   and   five  other   boys   of  my   village   were   treated   like   outsiders   because   all   other   students   belonged   to   the   same   village   where   school   was   situated .

By    the   time   as   teachers   likening   raised   for   me   the   hate   of   the    other   students    arose    even     more  .The    other    girl   who   was   in   my   grade   was   biggest    problem    for   me   already   and   i   realized   that    boys   of   her   village   pumped    her   against   me   more .

She   stole   my   money   threw   my   lunch    and   pulled   my   braid    many   times   to   tease   me   to   fight   with   me .I   sense   her    plan   and   remained    patient   as   i   knew   that   if   we   had   fight    other   girls   will   support    her   too.   I   could   not   tell    teacher   because    she   left   no   evidence  ever.   I   knew   if   i   will   tell   mother   she   will   come   to   school   and   talk   to   the   teachers    but    then   everyone   will   make   fun   of    me   that   i   was   coward   and   called   mom   for   help    instead   of   facing   it   by   own.

One    day    when   it   was      break    time   and   teachers   were   in    rooms    Nazima [the girl's name]  pushed   me   so   hard   while   i   was   leaning   over   the   hand   pump   and   drinking   water  ,my   face   slammed    with   pump   and   nose    started   bleeding  .Nazima   and   other  both   girls   were   laughing   and   so   the   all   boys   except   the   five   my   villagers .I   was    shaking   with   both    the   fear   and   anger  .I   got   up   from    the   ground   and   tried    to   push   her  but   three   of   them    started    beating  me   and   pulling   my   braid   ,i   fell   on   ground   again   my   eyes   were   shut    due   to   tears   ,sweat   and   hair  .All    i    could    feel    my    hands   grip    on   her   shirt   and   i   was   pulling   it    to   make   her   fell   down   with   me    so   i   could   beat   her   too.

I   Did    not    know    what   happened   suddenly   that   they   took   their   hands   off   me   with   some   strange   kind   of   screaming . When   i   opened   my    eyes   i   was    shocked    and   really   more   than   shocked   that    Nazima   was   sitting   on   her    knees    on   ground    and   shouting   that    i   took   off    her   pants [she  was  11 ]. 

 Both   male   teachers   came    out   they   saw   the   situation   and   without   asking   anything   one   of   them   took   a   thick    stick   and    hit   my   knees   by    saying   that   you   did   a   very   shameful   act  .I    still    remember    that   tear   pouring   from   my   eyes   not   for   that   punishment   but   for   that   blame .

That   day   i   took   more   then   two    hours   to    reach    home   instead   of   half   hour  because   i   was   unable   to   walk   properly   yet   pain   i   felt   was   that   disgraceful   blame   was  more   than   physical    misery .

Next    day  mom   went   to   school   and   angrily   asked   about  it   from  teachers  .They   said   if   they   would   have   not   react   such   way    there   would   be   a   revolt   and   protest   against   them  because  it   was   about   a   girl's   dignity ,   they   said   i   am   very   brilliant   student   though    but   it   was    obvious   and   necessary   as   that   girl   belong   to   a   wealthy   family  . Mom   was   so   sad   and   angry   she   believed   me   that   i   did   not   do   it   and    my    villager   boys   also   told   her   everything   Nazima   used   to   do   me .

Mother   immediately   decided  that   she   will   not   send   me   to   this   school   again .
Next    week    she   took   me   the   girls    high    school   where   only   girls  were    studying   and   all   the   teachers   were    female .This   was   my   biggest    relief   that   from   now   i   will   be   away   from   boys    school    and   specially   Nazima   was   not   in   my   life   anymore .
But   my   happiness   could   not   last   for    long   when    after   three   months  new   admissions   opened   after   exams  one   day   Nazima   appeared   again   as   my   class   mate .A   strange    strong   fear   waved   inside   my   body   when   i   saw   her   front   of   me   .

Her   smile   and   snake like  eyes   were    saying   me   that  "I   am   after  you   ,you   can't   get   rid  of  me"    I   really   wanted   to   disappear   in   air  ,she   was   weird  and   frightful   .I   could   not   understand   that   why   she   hated   me   as   much     that    chased   me   here   too. Just    to   make   me   in   trouble   she   put   her   in   disgust   and   now   i   could   imagine  that   she   can   go   any   further     to   hurt   me   and   it  made   me   so   afraid .

I   was   lucky   that    before   her   coming   i   made   many   new   friends   and   got   lots   of   appreciation   from   my   teachers  [later    when  i  got  in   high   classes  i  was  lucky   enough   to   be   one   of   my   principal's  favorite   student  too] .
Since   beginning   i   got   terribly   bad   handwriting   but   still  my   teachers   accepted  and   adored  my   hard   work   and   it   was   huge   satisfaction   for   me .Back   to   Nazima   who   tried   her   best   to   take   my   friends   away   and   make   me   insulted   by   my   teacher   by   her   clever   tricks  .Her   efforts   were   very  high   and   easily   noticed   by   my   friends   and   teachers. 

 But   this   time   God   Blessed   me   with   honor   and   when   one   day   in  exit   time  while  we   were   standing  in  the   line  to   move   towards   the   gate   she   acted   like   pushed   her  and   she   threw   her   bag  on   ground   and   everything   spread   here  and  there. She   was  literly  actually  crying  and   running   towards   the   principal   office   while   saying  that   shabana   hit   me   and   threw   my    bag  .I   was   shocked   again   by   her   acting   skills  but   surprisingly   principal   slapped   her   so   badly   and   fired   her   out   by   saying   that  " we   been   noticing  you  since  you  are  here  and  know  your   history   too,this   school   is   not  a   place   where   you  came   for   politics   or   fighting "

Coming   years   were   some   of   most   beautiful   for  me  in   the   school  and   are   still  as   treasure  in   my  heart.

After   finishing  my   school   i   got  a  government  teaching  job   but   could   not  continue   because  mom   got  me  married  after  two  years.  After   six   years   of   my   marriage  when   once   i   went   to   my   mother's   home   mom   told  me   that   one   day   Nazima   came   to   see   you   and   she  was   apologizing   with   teary   eyes   for   her   previous   misbehavior  with   you  ,i   told  her   that   you   live  in   city   far   away   now   than   she  said   kindly  let  me  know  when  she  visit  her   i   will   say   sorry   to   her   .

I  never    wanted   to   see   her   but   by   chance   we  met   on   a  wedding   ceremony   of   common    friend .She   came   near   and   hugged   like   she   someone  so   closed  to  heart.  i   was  amazed   by    her   new   look   .Gentleness   and   peace   replaced   that   evil   desperation   on   her   face .She   talked    for   so   long   ,in   short   she   said   that   she   hated   me   because   i   was   everyone's   favorite  and  specially   because   my  mother  loved  me   as  much   that   she   cared  about    so  much ,she   brought   umbrella  and  lunch   and  give  goodbye  kisses  But  my   mom  never  cared   about  me   she   hated   me   as  much  i  hated   her .
She  is  unfaithful   wife   and  irresponsible   mother . Her   confession   made    me   cry  ,i   hugged   her  and   told   her   that   it   was   foolishness  of   childhood  now   we   should  forget  about  it .

She   was   changed   and   this   was   when   i   experienced   for   the   first   and   last   time   that   people   change   actually  sometime   and   be   good  in   future.

Sorry   post   became  much   long   friends  but   i  really   wanted  to  share  this  today.
please  take  care ,stay  happy  and  positive.God  Bless  You  All!


Saturday, April 8, 2017

Meet My City Khairpur ! [means city of peace!]

Hello   Precious   Friends!

Hope   and   pray    that   Life   is   passing    wonderfully   under   the   obstacles    of    circumstances  and   you   are   feeling   proud   of   you   that    each   time   when   you    encountered   to  one   and   though    for   a   while   you   think   it   is  impossible    but   then   very   next   moment    your    inner    fighter    jumps   out   of    you    and    cross   it     with   an   unbelievable    and   remarkable   move    and     you    hear   your    inner   voice   so    clearly   "oh   that   was   nothing   ,i   can   do    even    better ".

Dear    friends    today    i    want   you   to   peek   little   into   my   city   and   explore  some   important   points   about  it.

We   all   know   that   each   city   was  village   before   it   extends  into  a   city .Our   khairpur   city  was   a  princely    state  and  was   ruled   by   the  Talpur    Mirs  [means   LORDS  or  kings ]   from  1783 .  When   in  1947   our   country   came  into    being   ruler   of   this   state   did   not   submitted    this   state  to   the   new   government    until   1955 .  Now   this   city  is  a   capital   of    district   and    twelfth    largest  city.  This   city   bears   almost   3  lac   inhabitants .  It   is   6   hour   away   from   Karachi   city   which   is    among   the   few   biggest   industrial   cities  of   the   world.   Mostly   peoples   are   educated    yet   bound   to   their   cultural   values. 96 percent   people  are   Muslims   though    Hindu   community   and   Christian   community   also   living  here   on   good   terms  with   each   other  . This    city   has   a   good   luck   because   the   most   of   the   chief   minsters    of   province   belonged   to   this   city    and    paid   full   attention   to   groom   their   city.Unfortunately    i   could   not   find   appropriate   images   to   share   with   you   the   beauty   of   this   city  .Though    throughout   the    year    longest   and   harsh    season   is    summer   and   rains   are   rare    still    management    tried    its   best   to   make   city   green.

   This  palace  belong   to   the  Mirs [lords]  Family  who  ruled here for many decays ,Building   still   belong  to  the  new  generations  of  them  though   don't  live  here   anymore  but  well  looked  after  by  care  takers.

  found  only  one  photo  to  give  you   glimpse   of   insidious   subtilty   as  it   is   not   open   for   visitors  sadly .

      Fort  kot diji  one   one  most  wonderful  and   captivating   place  to   explore  half hour drive from main city   but  could  not  find  history  belong  to it online .

                                     Fort  umer kot  one hour  away from main city 

                                                         View   from  kot  diji

 Shah Abul Latif   University has  huge  building which  is  quite  attractive  and  bears  hundreds  of  students  as  coeducation 

                                                            some  more  angles  of  this  university 

          Main  gate  of  NAZ  PILOT  school   which  is  second  largest  school  in  Asia ,sadly  could not  find  good  pic  to  reveal  it's  hugeness   and  marvelous  architecture 

                          some  part  of   the  huge  lawn  that  school   has  

Mehraan   engineering   college gate  view 

Front  view  of  Gymkhana  which  includes  all  facilities  of  exercise and  sports 

Front   view   of   library  near  us 

Inside  view of gymkhana 

Gate  of  new  hospital ,there are main  civil  hand city  hospitals  too  but no pics available 

one  of  our   playground 

Bilawal  Bhutto  Park .

dear    friends  hope   you  liked  my  city  i  hope   soon   i   will   get   some  more   interesting  photos  to  give  you idea  of  place  where  we  live .

See   you   soon   dears ,Please   take  Great   Care   in  each   single  mean  because  you  are   precious  and  very  special !
keep   smiling stay  positive  and   srtorng ,God  Bless  You   All!